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The author:(作者)delvpublished in(发表于) 2013/10/31 9:33:52 Nanjing primary and secondary pilot EQ lesson after-school job go home， hug， MOM and dad
A letter from a mother, and cry a bunch of kids ... ...
Express News "MOM has always read 9 years ago, you were born in that moment of happiness and excitement for the whole family ... ..." on 27th, three experimental primary school in liuhe district of Nanjing, Jiangsu Province (2) class class, Xu Zi Xin's mother wrote to her daughter a letter, quite a few students crying. This is an EQ class, supporting the day officially unveiled the "emotional intelligence, knowledge of reading", reading stories, drama, and other ways, help children improve emotional quotient (EQ), learn to manage their emotions.
From now on, 40 elementary schools and 20 junior high school in liuhe district pilot began to EQ, EQ training of students. After the pilot in liuhe district, "emotional intelligence, reading" are likely to be even more widespread in Nanjing.
Classroom stories
EQ lesson: let the children touched by parents
Yesterday afternoon, six solid three (2) Chinese teacher Yang Meihong, 52 kids in the class a section on EQ education in special classes. This name of the little fish is surrounded by love, "little fish" means is that kids grow up in the care of parents. Begin, the children don't have any special feeling, the teacher asks, to grateful parents, what should I do? Kids answer for parents washing dishes, mopping, pour ... ...
At this time, Yang Meihong suddenly, "said Xu Zixin classmate's MOM, has wrote a letter to her, she wants to read. ”
"MOM still remember 9 years ago, you were born that moment of happiness and excitement for the whole family; mother secretly shed many tears when you are sick. 9 years is not a long, you have completed are wise, kind, polite, obedient little adult ... ... "in the letter, MOM told Xu Zi yan, always strict with her father, in fact, is the most loved her. In order to make her independent, father since kindergarten, just send her to kindergarten places; when he was young let her sleep alone ... ... All these have made her feel, dad is too hard. But Dad to daughter long exposure, just out of town, and must be taking her out long exposure ... ...
Haven't finished reading the letter, Xu Zi Yan with a WOW to cry out. Next to the student, could not help crying. Class was interrupted, children take out paper towel wipe the tears.
Yang Meihong every child was given a heart-shaped card, ask students to think about what your parents said to write it down.
Little girls-Ting wrote: "Dear MOM and dad, I developed when I grow up, I will repay you, because I know the day I was born, my mother is the most painful, my dad was the most anxious. ”
One guy wrote: "Dear MOM and dad, I'm always playful always let you down, I'm sorry! ”
Jobs is also very special for this lesson, ask each student to go home to her parents a big hug.
Reading content
Help children learn to deal with emotions
Pen I love being at the same table as being stolen, how to do? Good for your friends, buy buy them to eat and drink, why they don't like to make friends with me? Grandma's game machines saw me go through my drawers, I gave her a push and punch by abusive dad, where do I wrong? …… Are these students often have to face and deal with problems.
Primary school teacher training Center Director Dr Gu Li, editor-in-Chief of Nanjing city, a line of excellent teachers and education experts involved in the preparation of the hold up a little Sun – young reader 27th EQ knowledge officially unveiled.
To primary school in the high grade reading for cases, book points six a chapter, respectively is "known people of various emotional" "known self mood" "feel, and understanding others mood" "self mood management" "self incentive" "interpersonal communication and management", each chapter are has celebrity story, also attached "love business activities programme", inside some game, and stories play, to deepened experience, also has self-test questionnaire can let students better to understanding himself, also has to parents of education cheats Guide.
(According to the modern Express)
Put the kids to do these questions –
(1) lost his temper at home? A。 Regular b. Sometimes c. Very few (2) if the appointment an appointment with his classmates, but he talked to an hour late, you're going to say to him: a. You have no sense of time, is not trustworthy
B。 You what? Why so late? Let me wait so long, never ask you again after c. I'm worried, because an hour more than the agreed time, I don't know if you took any surprises (3) mother made an appointment with you this weekend to go skating with you, but temporary working overtime.
A。 Cried out: you hate, you are a mother speak not count
B。 Cried and ran to my room
C。 After you take a deep breath and MOM said on hearing the news, I am both angry and disappointed, a planned, suddenly can't go, next week, be sure to take me to
(4) after the mother reproaches and criticism, what would you do?
A。 Stormed out of b. C, weeping bitterly. Upset might be in the room for a moment, if very angry smash hit his pillow
(A=1, B=2, C=3, 10 minutes more than covers the emotional management and nice)
Mama and Daddy to give it a try –
Children came home from school to tell you: "today at school my classmates called me! ”
As parents you response would be:
Answer A--"the little things don't worry about it. ”
Answer b-"you won't teach him, too, did you call back? ”
Answer c – "I'm busy, a little bit later. ”
Answer D--"OK? Students beat you, so you're hurt? ”
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The first time for the children to understand their emotions
What will be your answer? Attention of the child's emotional parents answer, will be the last--D.
What causes it? Because the basic skill of emotional intelligence expert was aware of emotional States, the parents in this case should help children identification of emotional states: "so you're not happy? "" So you feel wronged? ”
Help children recognize their own emotional state, will be two big benefits.
First of all, from which children can understand, the next thing to deal with, are their emotions, rather than the "other side". So, it's the real thing, not because he feels aggrieved, and theory of looking for each other, but should be aware that truly troubled by his own emotional response, then the subsequent efforts, is how this mood of adjustment, make appropriate responses.
Second, children can learn empathy abilities. This beating, sick at heart, you know, to play other people, somebody else would have felt that way. The profound emotional experience, helped to raise children empathy abilities.
In helping children identify emotions, the next step is, MOM and Dad can ask: "are you going to tell me what happened? "This is a very important means of communication between parents, when parents learn to ask questions and listen, kids will want to speak, communicate to each other unhindered.
Golden Goat excursions, Express News(南京中小学试点情商课 课后作业回家拥抱爸妈 |情商|南京|试点_新闻资讯2013年10月30日04:29（编辑：SN091）
一封妈妈的来信，惹哭一群孩子……
新快报讯 “妈妈至今都还记得9年前，你出生的那一刻全家人的幸福与激动……”27日下午，江苏省南京六合区实验小学三(2)班的课堂上，徐紫欣的妈妈写给女儿的一封信，不少学生都听哭了。这是一节特别的情商课，配套的还有当天正式亮相的“情商知识读本”，读本用故事、情景剧等方式，帮助孩子们提高情商(EQ)，学会管理自己的情绪。
从即日起，六合区的40所小学和20所初中试点开讲情商课，对学生进行情商训练。在六合区试点之后，“情商读本”有可能在全南京市甚至更大范围推广。
课堂案例
情商课：让孩子被父母感动
昨天下午，六合实小三(2)班的语文老师杨美红，给班上52个孩子上了一节特殊的情商教育课。这堂名叫《被爱包围着的小鱼》，“小鱼”指的就是在父母呵护下成长的孩子们。开始，孩子们没什么特别感觉，老师问起，为了感恩父母，应该做哪些事？孩子们回答帮父母洗碗、拖地、倒茶……
这时，杨美红突然说，“徐紫欣同学的妈妈，特地写了一封信给她，她想读一读。”
“妈妈至今都还记得9年前，你出生的那一刻全家人的幸福与激动；你生病时妈妈偷偷流了多少眼泪。9年弹指一挥间，你已出落成聪明、善良、懂事、孝顺的小大人……”在信中，妈妈还告诉徐紫欣，一直对她要求严格的爸爸，其实是最爱她的。为了让她独立，爸爸从幼儿园开始，就只把她送到离幼儿园远远的地方；很小的时候就让她一个人睡……这些，都让她感觉，爸爸是不是太狠了。但爸爸为了让女儿长见识，只要到外地去，一定带着她出去长见识……
信还没读完，徐紫欣就哇的一声哭了出来。旁边的同学，也忍不住哭了。课堂一度中断，孩子们都拿出纸巾抹泪。
杨美红发给每个孩子一张心形卡片，让学生们把想对父母说的话写下来。
女生小婷写道：“亲爱的爸爸妈妈，不论我长大后发不发达，我都会报答你们的，因为我知道在我出生的那一天，妈妈是最痛的，爸爸是最焦急的。”
一位男生写道：“亲爱的爸爸妈妈，我总是调皮总是让你们失望，对不起！”
这节课的作业也非常特别，请每位同学回家给父母一个大大的拥抱。
读本内容
帮助孩子了解处理自我情绪
自己心爱的钢笔被同桌说成是偷来的，怎么办？对朋友很好，给他们买吃的买喝的，为什么他们还是不喜欢跟我交朋友？外婆乱翻我的抽屉看到我的游戏机，我推了她一下，被老爸暴揍一顿，我哪儿错了？……这些都是学生经常要面对和处理的问题。
由南京市小学教师培训中心主任谷力博士主编，一线心理教育专家和优秀老师参与编写的《托起心中的小太阳——青少年情商知识读本》27日正式亮相。
以小学中高年级读本为例，全书分六个章节，分别是“认识人的各种情感”“认识自我情绪”“感受、理解他人情绪”“自我情绪管理”“自我激励”“人际沟通与管理”，每个篇章都有名人故事，还附有“情商活动方案”，里面有一些游戏、情景剧等来加深体验，还有自测问卷可以让学生更好地了解自己，也有给家长的教育秘籍指导。
(据《现代快报》)
让孩子做做这几道题——
(1)在家是否发脾气？A。经常B。有时C。很少(2)如果跟同学约好时间见面，但是他整整晚了一个小时才到，你会对他说：A。你太没有时间观念了，很不守信
B。你怎么回事？怎么那么晚？让我等了那么长时间，以后再也不约你了C。我很担心，因为超过约定时间有一个小时了，我不知道你是不是发生了什么意外(3)妈妈跟你约定好周末带你去溜冰的，但是临时要加班。
A。大喊：你讨厌，你是个说话不算数的妈妈
B。哭着跑回自己的房间
C。深呼吸后跟妈妈说：听到这个消息，我觉得既生气也很失望，原本计划好的，突然不能去了，但是下个礼拜一定要带我去
(4)被妈妈责备和批评后，你会怎么做？
A。摔门而出B。伤心地哭C。可能会在房间里难过一会儿，如果非常生气会砸砸自己的枕头
(A=1分，B=2分，C=3分，10分以上说明自我情绪管理能力不错)
爸爸妈妈也来试一试——
孩子放学回来告诉你：“今天在学校有同学打我！”
身为父母的你，这时候的反应会是：
答案A——“这种小事别放在心上。”
答案B——“你不会也教训他吗，你有没有打回去？”
答案C——“我现在很忙，晚一点再说。”
答案D——“还好吗？有同学打你，所以你很委屈？”
○解读
第一时间让孩子了解自己的情绪
你的答案会是什么呢？重视孩子情商的父母亲之答案，会是最后一个——D。
原因是什么呢？因为情商高手的基本功，就是察觉情绪状态，父母在这个情况下，应先帮助孩子辨识出现的情绪状态：“所以你不开心了？”“所以你感到委屈了？”
帮助孩子辨认自己的情绪状态，会带来两个天大的好处。
首先，孩子可以从中明了，接下来要处理的，是自己的情绪，而不是那个“对方”。也就是说，现在真正该做的事情，不是因自己感到委屈而找对方理论，而是应该意识到，真正的困扰其实是自己的情绪反应，那么随后该努力的，就是如何调适情绪，做出合适反应。
其次，孩子可以从中学会换位思考的能力。这次挨打，心里难受，以后就知道了，若去打别人，别人也就会有这样的感受。这个深刻的情绪体会，有助于提升孩子换位思考的能力。
在协助孩子辨识情绪之后，接下来，爸爸妈妈就可以再问：“你要不要告诉我发生了什么事？”这是个很重要的亲子沟通方式，当父母学会发问及倾听，孩子就会愿意开口说话，会让彼此的沟通畅行无阻。
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