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published in(发表于) 2013/11/13 7:22:23
Media surveys show Changsha 50 up 400 times times

The 90 's of the last century, sketch of Mr Andrew WONG has words to say: 5 bucks, no one looked at, 10 bucks, shake, 20 bucks, layo, 80 to drink wine.

Not long ago, the huasheng online @ black cats threw up slots: 5 years ago, married friend sent me 200 Yuan, 5 years later, I married friends requite 200 Yuan.

Reciprocity is a long-standing tradition, as prices rise, giver of gifts and has a more "overlook" inside game. To understand the attitude of the public to make a gift of sth, with ritual in Changsha, this newspaper was launched on November 10 "Changsha gift giving survey", to 113 the total number of people surveyed, including 49 men and women 64.

Three Hunan huasheng reporters Wang Weiwei intern Li Chi Kang Danrong

　　Wedding shower spends the highest

November 10, this reporter took to the streets of Changsha distribution of questionnaires, survey respondents heard about gift-giving, Groove, tangled. Investigations revealed that expenditure on all types of gifts, wedding gifts to 48% come out on top, followed by birth, birth of a child, on the move, visiting, and so on. In terms of monthly cash to spend, 30% respondents approximately 200-400, 38% respondents to 500-700 Yuan, 32% respondents were even more than 800 Yuan.

Huang 娭毑, Yuhua district, Metropolitan Pavilion community is 77 years old, she recalls that 60 of the last century, married send 5 cents is a relatively polite. 70 General sent $ 5, 80 hits 10 bucks, 90 hits 50 bucks, 2000 starting price is $ 100, even 200 bucks is a bit not be presentable. According to Huang 娭毑, press math, Changsha "money" 50 years has gone up 400 times times.

Kaifu said Jiang Jielin, from September 14 to October 4, she attended a total of 9 banquet, marriage, having children, birthday, gifts sent 4,800 Yuan does not say, wedding holiday get together often, run run that, physically and mentally fatigued.

Deng Yuhua road Royal Flush individual operators a 40 year old, son still in high school, the family income of about 40,000 yuan, favors cost about 10,000 yuan every year. Relatives at home, and nieces are married every year marriage, Tang said a lot of pressure.

Gifts "cost" 200

When it comes to Changsha wedding quotes, three respondents choose 59% Yuan, thousands of think not sent 30.5% afraid to go to a wedding, 9% said a brilliant 600 only come to your hand, consider starting at 800 yuan in the 1.5% per cent of the total number of respondents.

Survey, respondents ' occupational differences of knowledge about wedding standards are not the same. Some enterprises or other institutions in Changsha, is generally $ 200 worth of "start", cheery colleague to send 400 people. Said Jiang teacher in qingshuitang elementary school II, married teacher send 200-400 with the Office, other colleagues sent to 100 Yuan, gifts were received by the Union President, be given to newcomers.

In addition, the "start price" will change as the number of seats. Zhongyi Tianxin He Ye say, if it is alone, usually sent to 200 Yuan. But three all went drinking, basically to get 400 Yuan.

Kaifu Yuan Yigang on XI Jie recalls the 780, with ritual, it is feeling "before two tube pasta, 10 eggs can a wedding. ”

Most respondents did not mind does

The survey, respondents huasheng online @ 14% black cats share your opinion: as prices rise, Monica should have a little more accordingly.

Xiangjiang of century city, said Yuan 娭毑, last century 60 's wedding, when 6 41 pounds of pork, salt, 9 cents a pack, rice 1 cents a pound, 3 cents a piece of tofu, raw egg, 3 cents. Having a wedding only forty or fifty dollars, "money" one or two bucks when it's really sweet; now the wedding is at least 50,000 Yuan or more, costs are up so much, gifts must be followed up.

However, the more people say, regardless of how many years later, friend, Monica will not care, as long as the mind can be.

Community and Li Jing, who lives in Kaifu district, area Park is 57 years old, she one by one last favor reconciliation, sister-in-law 50 birthday in early July this year, sent to 500 Yuan on September 20; sister 60 birthday, sent 500 Yuan, some time ago, brother, fruit shop, send 500; niece is about to get married, is to figure out how much money to give ... ... Jing Li's 60 birthday approaching, she joked: "I don't know how much they'll go back to, but as long as they want, and I'm happy. ”

　囧

Send 400

Not enough feast

@ The source of all evil: the neighbor's daughter "11" get married, we sent 400 Yuan. Feasting is a five-star hotel, a table of food consumption is 3,000 yuan, is not the wine. Was going to whip, is not enough, this banquet.

@ Food toothpaste: some time ago, drink the wedding industry peers, friends and family lined up suifenzi, the first row of that with a red envelope, that said, in charge of collecting money: xxx, 2000. At this point, he's next to a man banging on a gong, shouted in a loud voice: 2000. Suddenly, lined up behind the friends are messy, open the red envelopes to put money in the hands.

@Lvwanhao: when I was married to a friend I gave him 500 Yuan, but when I got married, he said he was nervous spending next month to give me money. I can only laugh at that time say it doesn't matter. But the last such a long time and he's not a Word, seems to have forgotten about it.

　　Weapon

Gifts instead of gifts

In 1977, the tea plantation communities of father John when he got married, relatives sent 10 pounds of maize, while another neighbor sent a pair of hand-written by her name, father John and his wife feel deep affection.

Huang 娭毑, Yuhua district, Metropolitan Pavilion community clearly remember, in 1981 for her son by passing the 10 colleagues in order to express the mind, clubbed together to the mall to buy a towel, as a gift to his son. "Whenever I use this quilt heart warm. "Huang 娭毑 said.

Kaifu of Xie Weili has in United States work, said up once friends of wedding invited, she is is respected: "friends sent invitations Shi, inside with has a Zhang gift single, above lists has hopes friends sent of gift, I on sent has this on couples set tea, such both expression has themselves of heart, and avoid has gift repeat, also enhanced has friends friendship, is in one fell swoop more have. "After returning home, however, Xie Weili in the shower when I was going with the stream – money.

In an interview, there is also a way for a lot of people find it embarrassing: the guests can't come to the wedding, get a new bank card cash. Xie Weili said, with ritual is to invite friends to the site lively and boisterous, so one should go, as a naked money, more impersonal.

Expert

"The high-end consumer driven by ostentatious and inculcate correct values"

New analysis of Hunan sociologist, as income levels and higher booze costs, gift amounts accordingly. In addition, the civil servant groups partly led to the upscale consumer, bad spending winds formed a musical palaces.

New directions believed that "ritual" is spiritual, rather than material, this is the traditional Chinese "favor" really means. If excessively about does the amount and price parity violation "rites" in the first place. When it comes to gifts in lieu of gifts, new, in your relationships, gifts of cash to play the role of lubricant.

(Changsha "money" 50 up to 400 times times)

　　上世纪90年代，黄宏的小品里有句词儿说得形象：5块钱，没人瞅；10块钱，握握手；20块钱，抽良友；三十五十才能喝顿酒。

　　不久前，华声网友@黑猫警长吐槽：5年前，朋友结婚我送200元；5年后，我结婚了，朋友还礼竟还是200元。

　　礼尚往来是一贯的传统，如今随着物价的上涨，送礼者与收礼者有了更为“计较”的内心博弈。为了解长沙市民对于送人情、随礼的态度，本报于11月10日发起了“长沙送礼问卷调查”，接受调查的总人数为113人，其中男性49人，女性64人。

　　■三湘华声全媒体记者 王为薇 实习生 李驰 康丹蓉

　　结婚送礼花费最高

　　11月10日，记者走上长沙街头分发问卷，受访者一听是关于送礼的调查，各种吐槽，各种纠结。调查显示，各类礼金开支中，结婚礼金以48%的比例拔得头筹，其次是生日、生子、乔迁、探病等。在每月的礼金花费方面，30%的受访者约为200元—400元，38%的受访者为500元—700元，32%的受访者甚至超过了800元。

　　雨花区都市兰亭小区的黄娭毑今年77岁，据她回忆，上世纪60年代，结婚送个5毛钱算是比较客气的了。70年代一般送5块，80年代涨到10块，90年代涨到50块，2000年起步价就是100块，如今却连200块钱都有点拿不出手。按照黄娭毑的说法，记者一算，长沙的“份子钱”50年竟涨了400倍。

　　开福区的江洁琳说，从9月14日到10月4日，她一共参加了9场酒宴，结婚、生子、大寿一拨接一拨，礼金送了4800元不说，喜宴常在节假日扎堆，跑这跑那，身心俱疲。

　　雨花区王家冲路的个体经营者邓某今年40岁，儿子还在读高中，家庭年收入约4万元左右，可每年的人情花费就有一万元左右。家里亲戚多，年年都有侄儿侄女结婚出嫁，邓某说压力好大的。

　　送礼“起步价”200元

　　说到长沙礼金行情，59%的受访者选择了200元，30.5%认为没送400元不敢去喝喜酒，9%的人说礼金600元才拿得出手，认为起步价在800元的受访者占总数的1.5%。

　　调查中，受访者因职业不同，心中对礼金标准的认知也不一样。在长沙的一些企业单位或其他事业单位，一般都是200元的“起步价”，关系稍微好点的同事一般要送400元人情。清水塘第二小学的江老师说，同办公室的老师结婚一般送200-400元，其他同事一般送100元，礼金均由工会主席收取，一并交给新人。

　　此外，“起步价”还会随着参席人数而变化。天心区的何晔说，如果是自己独自前往，一般送200元。但一家三口都去喝酒，基本上要送400元。

　　开福区的袁易纲娭毑回忆起上世纪七八十年代的随礼方式，很是感怀：“以前两筒面条、10个鸡蛋就可以喝喜酒了。”

　　多数受访者不介意回礼

　　调查中，有14%的受访者与华声网友@黑猫警长持有同样的观点：随着物价的上涨，回礼方应该相应地多一点。

　　湘江世纪城的袁娭毑说，上世纪60年代办婚礼，当时猪肉6毛4一斤，盐9分钱一包，米1毛钱一斤，豆腐3分钱一块，生鸡蛋3分钱一个。办个婚礼只花了四五十块钱，“份子钱”一两块钱就算很客气了；现在搞个婚宴起码都是5万元以上，成本涨了那么多，礼金肯定也跟着涨。

　　然而，更多的人表示，不管时隔多少年，对于朋友的回礼并不会在意，只要心意到了即可。

　　家住开福区竹山园社区的李婧今年57岁，她一一道出最近的人情账，今年7月初弟媳50岁寿辰，送500元；9月20日姐姐60岁寿辰，送500元；前段时间，弟弟水果店开张，送500元；侄女马上就要出嫁，正合计着要送多少钱……李婧的60岁寿辰在即，她笑称：“不知道他们会回多少礼，但是只要他们有心，我都高兴。”

　　囧事

　　送400元

　　还不够酒席费

　　@源之源：邻居家的女儿今年“十一”结婚，我们送了400元。可赴宴地点是五星级酒店，一桌饭菜消费就是3000元，还不算酒水。本想去凑份子，却不够酒席钱。

　　@种菜的牙膏：前段时间，喝业内同行的喜酒，亲朋好友排队随份子，排第一的那位随了个红包，负责收钱的那位说了声：某某，2000元。这时，他旁边一哥们敲了一下手中的锣，大声叫道：某某随礼两千。顿时，后面排队的朋友都凌乱了，纷纷打开手里的红包往里加钱。

　　@lvwanhao:我一个朋友结婚时我给他随了500元，可我结婚时他说他手头紧张下个月开支了再给我随钱。我当时只能呵呵一笑说没关系。但过去这么久了他也不吱声了，好像忘记这件事了一样。

　　支招

　　用礼物代替礼金

　　1977年，茶园坡社区的彭爹结婚时，有位亲戚送来10斤玉米，而另一位邻居则送来一副亲手书写的贺喜对联，彭爹和妻子感受到了浓浓的情谊。

　　雨花区都市兰亭小区的黄娭毑清晰地记得，1981年她儿子金榜题名，单位的10位同事为了表达心意，一起凑钱去百货商场买了一条毛巾被，当作礼物送给了儿子。“每每用到这床被子，心里就暖暖的。”黄娭毑说。

　　开福区的谢维丽曾在美国工作，说起一次朋友的婚礼邀请，她很是推崇：“朋友送请柬时，里面附带了一张礼品单，上面列出了希望朋友送的礼品，我就送了这对夫妇一套茶具，这样既表达了自己的心意，又避免了礼品重复，还增强了朋友情谊，真是一举多得。”然而回国后，谢维丽在送礼时还是随大流——送钱。

　　采访中，还有一种随礼方式让很多人觉得尴尬：客人去不了婚礼现场，把礼金打到新人的银行卡里。谢维丽说，随礼本是请朋友到现场热闹热闹，这么一搞，成了赤裸裸的金钱关系，更没人情味了。

　　专家

　　“高档消费带动了讲排场的歪风”

　　湖南社会学家方向新分析，随着居民收入水平和酒宴成本的提高，礼金数额跟着水涨船高。此外，公务员群体一定程度上带动了高档消费，形成一股讲排场的不良消费之风。

　　方向新认为，“礼”是精神上的，而不是物质上的，这才是中国传统“礼尚往来”真正的意义。如果过分计较回礼数额与物价对等，有违“礼”的初衷。说到礼物代替礼金，方向新说，在人际交往中，礼物比现金更能起到润滑剂的作用。

（长沙“份子钱”50年涨了400倍）

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