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The author:(作者)qqpublished in(发表于) 2014/6/19 4:44:19 Within the Asian-American programmer， how to make friends in the West？ ，
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In Gao Xiao said recently when he heard him talk about the difference between Westerners and Chinese: Western social morality over private morality, States rather than individuals. China is just the opposite. He spoke for a lot of examples, and sounds are very reasonable, and leads me to conclude that their own judgment: China can't make the open source community and for that reason.
Today online to see an incident also illustrates this point: an Asian-American programmer intern wrote a letters online, got a lot of enthusiastic responses and support users, a lot of people wrote a lot of space to give the programmer guys.
My experience, Chinese people like to gossip or Sino-Japanese war has so much enthusiasm. There are not many discussions like this full of humane care.
The programmer guy worries is: an introvert like me Asian-American programmer, how to make friends in the West?
Obviously, this guy was lonely, but his problem is not alone. Said he is in the United States when feeling lonely, many programmers in the country would also like me feel lonely without friends.
If you like reading English, you can look here. Below is a translation of grass of this article.
An introvert like me Asian-American programmer, how to make friends?
I know this sounds very hard to answer, but I want to.
I am a software development now internship at a medium sized company in California, where I can practice until August.
I love what I do, I think it is also a smart, feel, pleasant young man.
However, it makes me sad is that I found I only own one person alone in a daze on the weekend, or for a person to do something themselves.
My internship began in February, every weekend, and I was eating alone, watching movies, shopping, walking, and all sorts of things. I don't even have a roommate.
Most of the time, it's nothing, but when event of flow, and lack of confidence, extremely painful. I don't even think it would be dangerous.
Whenever I see a group of people on the street and row, jealous mood good rises from the bottom. I'm curious how they met, how they do so close.
I am 26 years old, and I hope to meet some nice girls.
My problem--I think--are:
1. the 3.5 years of college life, I do not have any social life, I very seriously. When I talk to strangers feel particularly uncomfortable.
2. I think my English is OK, but later found out it's just like those other Asian students compared is true, now more and more I realized that my English is not enough, become obstacles to become friends with other people who speak English. Often encounter a variety of people in the company, I am trying to express what I mean, but often very clumsy way, and even worse, when lots of people around to talk, and it's hard for me to participate in their conversation.
3. I don't have a car, although for many people in the San Francisco Bay area, it's not a problem, but for me, it became my social a huge barrier. Think about it, the girl wants to be a stupid, but not going out of the car!
What do I do? I often imagine I'll be in line at the coffee shop or talk with people around ... ... but I know I cannot talk as an average American, I chickened out.
I began to fear the weekend arrival. For me, it's absolutely lonely day for two days, not constructive, never wasted two days, make their own, increasingly hates her for two days.
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