Top ten most annoying sister phrases came out: "drink water" tops-women's psychology, Goddess-IT information
Whether it is women's day, the goddess is women's day, March 8, on this day, how to get around, "she was" happy above all. Need to sweet talk, but more importantly don't hit "minefield". Recently, a survey estimates that women hate men called the top ten terms "drink water" ranked first, seems to be a concern, why women don't like it?
"Said the word drink plenty of hot water, she was angry"
The survey, "drink more hot water, how do you, hehe, later, is all my fault, casual, and you still have you busy, go to bed early, eat not," became the most piss girls top ten terms.
This result in Jinan University student Xu felt very sympathetic "one time my girlfriend is a little cold, I say a ' drink water ', did not think she was angry, then asked her why she did not say, I still don't understand. ”
People often say Mr Hu lives in Jinan, "drink more hot water" these, had not seen the survey results when he does not think there is nothing wrong with this sentence. "Say it's time, it is because there is no girlfriend around to take care of her, except to say that beyond the words, do not know what to say. ”
In more than 30 years old, Mr Tang's view, which in itself is no problem, depends on tone. "' Sorry honey, it's all my fault ' and ' OK, OK, it's all my fault ' is obviously not the same today. ”
"Compared to not understand, put more annoying"
7th, the reporters interviewed 19 women aged from 20 to 40 years old, for this list of "top ten", most people expressed general support.
"In fact, the words themselves are not what's wrong with, if I'm angry as he said these words, it should be because he does not know me. "Female college student Wang says," such as when they get sick or period in the stomach, I need more comfort or care, if you keep telling me to drink more water at this time, I feel a little sick. "Compared with the don't know, brush
More women get angry. "I think women would be a bit sensitive, and while talking to her boyfriend, was able to feel that he's the kind of elaborate, in this case, even if he is concerned about me, I would still feel unhappy. ”
Gu women 40 years old and her feeling for these languages are not so strong. "I think may fall in love during the young man would be more easy to get angry, when both sides testing each other's mind, could easily be one sentence or so. "Gu said:" now rarely feel very happy or very angry because a sentence, if you want to make me happy, rather than take practical action. ”
Want to coax the goddess happy, have to learn to interact
Why do women hate "drink water" this kind of remark? Song Jiayu of psychological experts on marriage and family, "said psychological analysis, such statements with a perfunctory and payable means, and what women hate most is to deal with, they really need is an emotional exchange. ”
"Men and women have different physiological structure their different mental structures. Women's physiological structure decided women needed security, need to be protected, and the physiological structure of the males decide whether men should have interest in the protection of women. "Said Song Jiayu.
"Some men in the pursuit of women, rapid development of relationships with women, and learned some civility, this is not the way. "Said Song Jiayu, to tuck around the" her "happy, compassionate women's feelings and needs from the heart.
In addition, the expression also have to learn to take the expression and heuristic: "male to lead the women to talk about their needs and then go to meet women, women like to feel sincere. "At the same time, to talk to more exchanges between two people, so as to help mutual understanding between the sexes. When you really understand her, wants to make her happy, also becomes easier.
Expert analysis
Men value "solve the problem"
Women with "emotion"
Emotional experts, in General, men and women in a slightly different way of thinking. Women's interactions in expressing emotions, while men Exchange heavy passing information. Women's way of thinking is more focus on the present, exchange rates when emotions more, mostly for "emotion oriented". In contrast, male thinking more "purpose-driven", more attention is given to solve the problem. Girls fell ill, the boys wanted to express concern, also want early rehabilitation, an opening is "drink plenty of hot water" because the male brain "solutions" oriented too deeply ingrained. This often makes the men in the face of women's "test" or a joke, what to do.
妹子最讨厌十大用语出炉：“多喝热水”居首 - 女性心理,女神 - IT资讯
不管是女人节、女神节还是妇女节，3月8日这一天，怎么让身边的“她”开心最重要。这时候需要甜言蜜语，但更重要的是说话别碰到“雷区”。近日，一项调查统计出女性最讨厌的男性打电话十大用语，其中“多喝热水”排名第一，看起来是一句关心的话，为啥女性都不喜欢呢？
“说了句多喝热水，她就生气了”
调查结果显示，“多喝热水、你又怎么了、呵呵、以后再说、都是我的错、随便、还在吗、吃了没、你忙、早点睡”成为最能惹毛女生的十大用语。
这个结果让济南的大学生小徐感到很有共鸣，“有一次我女朋友说有点感冒，我就随口说了一句‘多喝点热水’，没想到她一下子就生气了，后来问她为什么她也不说，我到现在也没弄明白。”
济南市民胡先生在生活中也经常说出“多喝热水”这类的话，没有见过这个调查结果的时候，他并没有觉得这句话有什么不妥。“一般说这句话的时候，都是因为不能在女朋友身边照顾她，感觉除了能说这句话之外，自己也不知道说什么好。”
而在三十多岁的唐先生看来，这些话本身并没有什么问题，关键要看说话的语气。“‘宝贝儿对不起，都是我的错’和‘好好好，都是我的错’明显不一样嘛。”
“比起不懂，敷衍更令人讨厌”
7日，记者采访了19名从20岁到40岁的女性，对于这次评出的“前十名”，大多数人表示基本赞同。
“其实这些话本身都没什么毛病，如果我为他说这些话生气，那应该是因为他不懂我。”女大学生小王说，“比如生病或者生理期肚子疼的时候，我更需要的是安慰或者照顾，这时候如果一直跟我说多喝热水，我就会觉得有点讨厌。”与不懂自己相比，敷衍
会更加让女性生气。“我觉得女性本来就会有点敏感，因此，跟男朋友说话的时候，一下子就能感受到他的那种敷衍，在这种情况之下，就算他是在关心我，我还是会觉得不高兴。”
顾女士今年已经40岁了，她对于这些语言的感觉并没有那么强烈。“我觉得可能谈恋爱期间的年轻人会更容易生气，因为那时候双方都在试探对方的心意，很容易被一句话左右。”顾女士说：“现在很少会因为一句话觉得特别高兴或者特别生气，如果想让我开心，不如拿出点实际行动。”
想哄女神开心，得学会互动
为什么女性会讨厌“多喝热水”这一类话呢？婚姻家庭方面的心理专家宋家玉表示，“从心理学来分析，这类语句带着敷衍和应付的意味，而女性最讨厌的就是应付，她们真正需要的是情感上的交流。”
“男女不同的生理结构决定了他们不同的心理结构。女性的生理结构决定女性需要安全感、需要被保护，而男性的生理结构决定男性是要关心保护女性的。”宋家玉表示。
“有些男性为了追求女性，快速发展与女性之间的关系，学习了一些客套的方法，这是不对的。”宋家玉说，要想哄身边的那个“她”开心，得从内心体恤女性的感受和需求。
此外，还得学会承接式表达和启发式表达：“男性要引导女性说出自己的需求然后去满足女性，女性都喜欢感受真心。”同时，两个人之间要多倾诉多交流，这样才能帮助两性之间互相理解。当你真正懂她的时候，想让她开心也就变得容易了。
专家分析
男人看重“解决问题”
女人想着“表达情感”
情感专家分析，一般来讲，男性和女性在思维方式上略有不同。女性的交流重在表达情感，而男性的交流则重在传递信息。女性的思维模式更专注于当下感受，交流时即时情绪感受更多，多为“情感导向”。相对而言，男性的思维更具“目的导向”，更重视的是解决问题。比如女生生了病，男生想表达关心，也希望对方早点康复，可一开口就是“多喝热水”，因为男性思维中“解决问题”的导向太过根深蒂固。这一点，常常使得男性在面对女性的“考验”或玩笑时，不知所措。