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The meaning of life comes from our sense of happiness and fulfillment, and high quality interpersonal relationships is one of the main source of happiness and fulfillment.

Harmonious interpersonal relationship is like emotional vitamins, so that we gain through force and daily nourishment.

I do not grab a red envelope or red hair, risked being labelled "boring", "color" and "sentimental" these tags, I ventured to write this sentence. Red hair grab a red envelope from 2014 in fashion to the present not only on the rise, more River surges unstoppable momentum. In social media, Hello greeting a red hair, increase their attention, red hair to enhance the impact circle of friends the red hair, red hair was happy, not happy the red hair ... ... In short, red hair played a knock at the door of the brick of the spiritual role of drug.

Micro Group was established at the beginning of the University that are always down like a storm, in the face of overwhelming red I was calm as ever, even if there is direct message reminding Rob I was indifferent, finally being consistent identification: old-fashioned, not grab a red envelope. I give up. Red hair actually grab a red envelope is nothing more than the rapid melting of interpersonal divide a way of strengthening effective interaction, but solely through money as a medium of interaction is less human.

Now that Rob is sure to focus on group dynamics, grab a red envelope should also pay attention to thoughtful, it is best not biased, holding the left out; Rob will almost certainly be posted back to concerned groups, red envelopes were made by themselves, after all, few people grab a red envelope or return is somewhat wannna thing.

This takes time and effort, if while operating more than one group, that the effort spent more, and in which groups should be more clearly made as much as Rob, after all, "reciprocity" is the interpersonal always adhere to the rules. Of course, the reciprocity of truth not only on the envelopes, but also in other areas of the app, such as "like".

I do not know of modern science and technology to meet the people's strong desire to link by attention seeking, or are they being attention seeking links desire inspired by the development of modern science and technology, in short, both geniuses meet.

Micro letter with "strong ties" since the birth of the face of social tools, fashion has become King of software everyone will play. Top to the oldest young men to young people under the old app, app is getting away from the original show and promotional marketing paradise. Micro letter called circle of friends can see the Sun Sun Sun Sun Sun talent, ideas, feelings, gastronomy, Sun beauty happiness, progress, hard drying, sun drying, sunscreen, Sun project ... ... Rich content scale, in short a asking for attention like sense of presence is required. Useful attitude attract people like, straight to ask for praise, deliberately guessing on tantalising ... ...

Points praise General has such several "dive rules": equal of friends or colleagues Zhijian, Smoothie type to regardless of who sent are points praise, such of people has but less, and also not long insisted; General people are followed you to I to of principles; subordinate on superior you to I to principles not applies, subordinate forever to superior points praise, superior is very caution to subordinate points praise, because superior of points praise about is equal to on subordinate of praised.

Smile only when they are face to face with affinity

Either grab a red envelope and still like each other, and essentially is looking this way to promote friend or friendly social relationships among colleagues, but the results are often unsatisfactory.

If micro-letters of praise and envelopes in order to feel mixed face familiar feeling is good, then the familiar is very cheap and does not produce real value and emotional value. From person to person and not the psychological distance between effectiveness changes as a result. Because of platforms to rich but also the expression of a smiling face to face, "hugs" any more than an eye contact a handshake.

Tone tone, and eye posture This holographic of, and face-to-face of Exchange, will in we brain in the raised also of neural activities, makes we can in a a moments immediately get common of feel, makes we produced common share this a moments of wonderful feel, this was called "empathy resonance" of Exchange way, only occurred in each other real face of atmosphere in, like smile this for human for most with appeal of resources, also only in each other face Shi only will produced cannot block of affinity, After all people is unable to hug and kiss.

As somebody once said, the meaning of life comes from our sense of happiness and fulfillment, and high quality interpersonal relationships is one of the main source of happiness and fulfillment. Harmonious interpersonal relationship is like emotional vitamins, so that we gain through force and daily nourishment.

Because in media work of relationship, always has invited I joined micro-letter group of information, to makes himself is not so not gregarious, I are select agreed into group, but will do a absolute of diving who, never in any a group in active, also rarely concern group in of information, because I know in group in toss out again high of spray, no real space in of Exchange and links, we forever into can't other of "he" or "she", and only is "it".

网络再好，但完不成一个拥抱 - 微信红包,微信 - IT资讯

生活的意义主要来自于我们的幸福感和成就感，而高质量的人际关系是幸福感和成就感的主要源泉之一。

和谐的人际关系就像是情感维生素一样，使我们从中获得渡过难关的力量和日常生活的滋养。

我不抢红包也不发红包，冒着被贴上“无趣”“格色”“矫情”这些标签，我大着胆子写下这句话。发红包抢红包从2014年开始流行到现在不仅方兴未艾，更有大江奔涌不可抵挡之势。在各种社交媒体里，打个招呼问候一声发红包，增加自己的关注度发红包，提升影响力圈住朋友发红包，开心了发红包，不开心了发红包……总之，发红包扮演了敲门之砖万灵之药的角色。

大学微信群成立之初，红包像暴雨一样时时刻刻倾泻而下，面对铺天盖地的红包我却淡定如初，即使有人私信提醒快抢我还是无动于衷，最后被大家一致鉴定：老土，不会抢红包。我认了。其实发红包抢红包无非就是快速消融人际隔膜加强有效互动的一种方式，但这种完全以金钱为媒介的互动方式总是少了些人情味。

既然要抢肯定要时刻关注群的动态，因为抢红包也要讲究周到，最好不要有失偏颇，捧了这个冷落了那个；抢了肯定也要回发也要关注群的动静，毕竟自己发了红包少有人抢红包或被退回是件有点失面儿的事。

而这，都是需要时间和精力的，如果同时经营多个群，那花费的力气就更大了，还要分得清自己在哪个群抢了多少发了多少，毕竟“礼尚往来”是人际交往亘古奉行的法则。当然，礼尚往来的真理不只表现红包上，还体现在微信的其他方面，比如“点赞”。

不知是现代科技满足了人们本来就具有的强烈被关注求链接的渴望，还是人们被关注求链接的渴望由现代科技的发展得到激发，总之两者天才式地相遇。

微信自以“强关系”社交工具的面目诞生以来，风行至今已成为人人必玩的软件之王。上至耄耋老者下至稚嫩少年人人皆微信，微信现已渐离初衷成为秀场和宣传营销的乐园。在微信所谓的朋友圈里能看到各种晒，晒才华、晒思想、晒情怀、晒美食、晒美颜、晒上进、晒辛苦、晒幸福、晒产品、晒项目……内容丰富尺度不同，总之一个求关注求点赞求存在感。有用自己的姿态吸引人点赞的，有开门见山求人点赞的，有故意卖关子吊人胃口的……

点赞一般有这样几种“潜规则”：同等的朋友或同事之间，老好人式地无论谁发都点赞，这样的人有但较少，而且也不会长久坚持；一般人都遵循你来我往的原则；下级对上级你来我往原则不适用，下级永远给上级点赞，上级则非常谨慎给下级点赞，因为上级的点赞约等于对下级的表扬。

微笑只在面对面时才产生亲和力

不管是发抢红包和还是互相点赞，本质上都是期待着通过这种便捷的方式来增进朋友或同事间的友好社交关系，但实际效果却往往差强人意。

如果说微信里的赞美和红包使自己感觉混个脸熟感觉不错的话，那么这种熟悉是非常廉价而且不会产生真正的资源价值和情感价值。人与人之间的心理距离并不会因此而发生有效性地改变。因为社交平台里的表情再丰富也抵不过面对面的一个微笑，“拥抱”得再多也不及实际接触时的一次对视一次握手。

语气语调、目光姿势这种全息的、面对面的交流，会在我们大脑中引发同样的神经活动，使我们可以在某一时刻立即获得共同的感受，使我们产生共同分享这一时刻的美妙感觉，这种被称为“移情共鸣”的交流方式，只能发生在彼此真正面对的氛围里，比如微笑这种对于人类来说最具感染力的资源，也只有在彼此面对时才会产生无法阻挡的亲和力，毕竟人们是无法通过网络来拥抱和亲吻的。

曾有人说，生活的意义主要来自于我们的幸福感和成就感，而高质量的人际关系是幸福感和成就感的主要源泉之一。和谐的人际关系就像是情感维生素一样，使我们从中获得渡过难关的力量和日常生活的滋养。

因为在媒体工作的关系，总是有邀请我加入微信群的信息，为了使自己显得不那么不合群，我都选择同意入群，但会做一个绝对的潜水者，从不在任何一个群里活跃，也很少关注群里的信息，因为我知道在群里折腾出再高的浪花，没有真实空间里的交流和链接，我们永远成不了对方的“他”或“她”，而只能是“它”。