Online social networking circles: talk more noisy, inner loneliness-app, social networking, lonely-IT information
On the surface, social networking platform to expand the network, reducing people's loneliness. But in fact, networking more distracting, instead of people more lonely. A survey of the University of London, accompanied by the growth of the younger generation on social networks although there are some social networks of people, but many people feel lonely in real life, not like home, lack of social skills, and some even "dare not answer the phone or the door."
"Plus I'm a little letter", which is now the most popular social networking tools.
China Internet Information Center CNNIC recently issued by the 37th meeting of the statistical report on Internet development in China showed that by December 2015, the scale of 688 million Chinese Internet users, Internet penetration is 50.3%. Social sphere of more extensive, not only gradually replace traditional phone calls, even into offline real life, changing the present people's social lives.
Cyberspace eliminates social concerns
Online social benefits are obvious, such as convenient and especially vulnerable young people of all ages. A survey of college students ' social habits and 57% of students using cell phones for more than 5 hours a day, everyday life "machine is hand". "Social networks with low cost, fast transmission features such as Exchange, multiple people at the same time, meet the needs of college students. ”
But for modern people, the social benefits not only this. Expand your circle of relationships and dialogue on an equal footing and avoid social concerns are the main reason we love online chat.
Just joined the company, loves to communicate with colleagues on the line, "because it's all not really through social platforms like comments, relationship closer than ever before." Love dating online communication, "because of some misunderstanding with a friend before haven't contacted, and later in a large group of first dialogue in a few words before warming up. "There is a networking setup, real communication becomes easier to integrate into.
IT engineer Wu Yan is the depth of social networks enthusiasts, most of his social life took place on the line, network contact number several times that of offline friends. On the Web, vs Wu yan friends jokingly referred to as "Lake baixiaosheng" he knows more, art and literature can talk sports gossip; has a sense of humor and active thinking and witty and enthusiastic, who had confused information problems, Wu can always be found to have some help. Wu Yan himself admitted on the Web more "like a fish in water", "in your willingness to respond when a friend, because there are a lot of words, at the discretion of the time, also expressed more clearly. ”
Psychological experts say, the advantage of this is the Internet era. "Hidden under the ID you have come to me to avoid face-to-face interpersonal collisions, not only have room for manoeuvre, even gave more thought to each other in time and space. Different people have the same right to speak and efficiency, all sorts of social concerns in real life and cyberspace seems to be eliminated. ”
Distance of the disappeared people had no sense of
However, Wu Yan friend Xiao Peng found, life vs Wu yan is a "pretty boring nerd." Xiao Peng and Wu Yan met in a big group, because both are active speakers and soon cooked up. Said later the group to organize offline events, both as the primary heads met on several occasions. Small difference between Peng and Wu once told on the Web, words boring, do not take the initiative to express their views, over and over again is that a few "Oh, well, is it" or "I will search the Internet for a while." Wu Yan explained that they are not good at or like offline social networking, face to face between the eyes feel too close to, the disappearance of distance makes no sense. In addition, the reality of words is to blurt out, unable to remove changes, it also made the instant views will be relatively cautious on Wu Yan, for fear that expression of misunderstandings.
"So while the online circle of friends contact hundreds of people, but in fact I was more accustomed to contact with the original circle of real-life friends, after all, know, do not need to rebuild the dating track, is more comfortable at will. ”
Line and catchy Lotus withdrawn below the line, "two-face" Wu Yan is not a small number, even some rely too much on line exchanges and weakening the capacity of lines of real communication.
Mr Yang was a classic case of Wuhan. Newspaper reports, as the "main group" Mr YEUNG in the group have strong communication skills and charisma, but he and his colleagues have difficulty in communicating in real life, very close colleagues he has even dared to use the chat tool "speaks". Zhongnan Hospital of Wuhan University, Senior Counselor xiaojinsong believes that Mr Yang relying too much on social networking it reinforced his real life obstacles.
Psychological experts said virtual network as we build an illusion: we have someone without pay; we are connected to each other, and can be invisible to each other. Communication seems easy, but no eyes and virtual networking, over time will make the real communication capacity degradation, leading to social disorder and even psychological problems such as autism. "Person to person communication not only between words so simple, but complemented by considerable body language and facial expressions. Network platform on human communication skills training greatly reduced. ”
More networking more distracting heart alone
"The furthest distance in the world is not between life and death but when I stand in front of you, you're brushing the phone. ”
On the surface, social networking platform to expand the network, reducing people's loneliness. But in fact, networking more distracting, instead of people more lonely. A survey of the University of London, accompanied by the growth of the younger generation on social networks although there are some social networks of people, but many people feel lonely in real life, not like home, lack of social skills, and some even "dare not answer the phone or the door."
Enjoy the social benefits of Wu Yan acknowledged that some nice light like water, Internet relationships are very fragile. "Like friends, but long in real life without friends, add a friend on the network, and is not linked. A word not just delete, delete when feeling happy, no psychological burdens, but also more likely to feel frustrated and hurt. ”
In addition, the popular advertising, chicken soup and flaunting of social networking is not better than a real social good too. The most famous case is the Australia Network red girl o ' Neill. She paved the way so many beautiful photos in a social network, has attracted nearly 600,000 fans. But in fact these are carefully performed false life. Because the cracks between social networks and real-life growing, Neill felt lost, final determination to exit the virtual networking.
Alone, however, is the social network's fault? Psychological experts disagree. "The Internet has penetrated into every corner of society today, even if there is no existing of a circle a letter or another App will appear. ”
After all, these social platforms is just the carrier, really plays a decisive role, and people who use these carriers. Apart the real communication instead of complaining against the social networking site, might as well adjust mentality, more active integration into social life.
网络社交怪圈：说话越聒噪，内心越孤独 -
微信,社交,孤独 - IT资讯
从表面上看，网络社交平台扩大了交际圈，降低了人们的孤独感。但事实上，网络社交越是聒噪，人们心里反而越容易孤独。英国伦敦大学的一项调查结果显示，在社交网络伴随下成长的年轻一代虽不乏网络社交达人，但他们中不少人在现实生活中感到孤独，不爱出家门，缺乏社交能力，有的甚至“不敢接电话或应门”。
“加我微信吧”，这是当下最主流的社交手段。
中国互联网信息中心CNNIC新近发布的第37次《中国互联网络发展状况统计报告》显示，截至2015年12月，中国网民规模达6.88亿，互联网普及率为50.3%。网络社交的势力范围越发广泛，不仅逐渐取代传统的电话联络，甚至渗入到线下真实的生活圈，悄然改变当下民众的社交生活。
网络空间消除了社交顾虑
线上社交的好处是显而易见的，比如方便快捷，所以特别容易受到年轻族群的青睐。一项针对大学生社交习惯的调查显示，57%的大学生每天使用手机的时间超过5小时，日常生活基本“机不离手”。“社交网络具有低成本、传输速度快、多人同时交流等特点，符合当代大学生的需求。”
但对现代人来说，网络社交的好处可不仅于此。扩大人际关系圈，更平等地对话，避免社交顾虑，才是我们越发深爱线上聊的主要原因。
刚进公司的新人热爱跟同事线上交流，“因为才进单位大家不太熟，通过社交平台的点赞评论，关系才比以前近了许多”。爱交友的也常用线上交流，“之前跟朋友因为一些误会有段时间没联络了，后来在一个大群里先对话几句才又热络起来。”有了网络社交的铺垫，真实交流变得更容易融入了。
IT工程师吴言是深度网络社交爱好者，他大部分的社交生活都发生于线上，网络联系人更数倍于线下朋友圈人数。在网上，吴言被朋友们戏称为“江湖百晓生”，他懂得多，文学艺术体育八卦都能侃侃而谈；有幽默感，思维活跃又妙语连珠；还热心，谁有生活困惑资讯难题，找吴言总能获得些帮助。吴言自己也坦言在网络上更“如鱼得水”，“可以在自己方便愿意的时候回复朋友，因为有很多斟酌字句的时间，表述也能更清楚。”
心理专家分析说，这就是互联网时代的好处。“隐藏在ID之下的你来我往避免了面对面的人际碰撞，不仅有了回旋的余地，甚至给了彼此更多思忖言行的时间和空间。不同身份的人有了同样发言的权利和效率，现实生活中的种种社交顾虑，在网络空间似乎都一下消除。”
距离感的消失让人没了安全感
然而吴言的朋友小鹏却觉得，生活中的吴言是个“蛮无趣的宅男”。小鹏和吴言在一个大群里相识，因为两人都是积极发言者，很快就熟络起来了。后来群里说要组织线下活动，他俩作为主要负责人见了几次。小鹏觉得吴言跟网络上判若两人，言语枯燥，也不主动发表意见，翻来覆去就是几句“呵呵，好的，是吗”，要不就是“这个我要上网查一下”。吴言则解释说，自己不擅长也不喜欢线下社交，感觉面对面的眼神交流太贴近，距离感的消失让人没有安全感。此外，现实中的话是脱口而出的，无法删除更改，这也让吴言发表即时意见时会相对谨慎，生怕产生表达理解偏差。
“所以虽然线上朋友圈的联络人有几百人，但实际上我还是更习惯跟原来的现实生活圈朋友联络，毕竟知根知底，不需要重建交友轨道，也更自在随意。”
线上口吐莲花，线下沉默寡言，“双面人”吴言可不是少数，甚至有人因为太过依赖线上交流而弱化了线下真实交流的能力。
武汉的杨先生就是个经典案例。报载，身为“群主”的杨先生在群里具有很强的交流能力和号召力，但现实生活中他和同事交流有困难，甚至很熟的同事他都只敢用聊天工具“说话”。武汉大学中南医院高级心理咨询师肖劲松认为，杨先生过多依赖网络交流加剧了他现实中的社交障碍。
心理专家表示，网络的虚拟性为我们制造了一种幻觉：我们有人陪伴，却无须付出；我们彼此连接，又可以互相隐身。沟通似乎变得轻松了，然而没有眼神和动作的虚拟社交，久而久之会令现实交际能力退化，导致社交障碍甚至自闭症等心理问题的产生。“人与人之间的交流并非只有文字那么简单，而是辅以相当丰富的肢体语言和表情动作。网络平台对人交际能力的训练大打折扣。”
网络社交越聒噪内心越孤独
“世界上最遥远的距离，不是生与死，而是我就站在你的面前，你却在刷手机。”
从表面上看，网络社交平台扩大了交际圈，降低了人们的孤独感。但事实上，网络社交越是聒噪，人们心里反而越容易孤独。英国伦敦大学的一项调查结果显示，在社交网络伴随下成长的年轻一代虽不乏网络社交达人，但他们中不少人在现实生活中感到孤独，不爱出家门，缺乏社交能力，有的甚至“不敢接电话或应门”。
享受网络社交各种好处的吴言承认，点赞之交淡如水，网络人际关系其实很脆弱。“喜欢就加好友，但在现实生活中长久不联系的朋友，网络中加了好友，也还是不会联系。一言不合就删除，虽然删除的时候感觉痛快，没有心理负担，但对方也更容易感到挫败和伤害。”
此外，盛行广告、鸡汤、炫富的网络社交也并不比真实社交美好太多。最著名的案例就是澳大利亚网红少女欧尼尔。她在某社交网络铺出无数美照，吸引了近60万粉丝。但事实上这些都是精心表演的虚假生活。因为网络社交与真实生活之间的裂缝越来越大，欧尼尔感觉迷失了自我，最后痛下决心，退出虚拟社交。
然而孤单真的是社交网络的错吗？心理专家并不以为然。“在互联网已经渗透到社会每一个角落的当下，即便没有现有的某圈某信，也会出现另外的App。”
说到底，这些社交平台不过是载体，真正起决定作用的，还是运用这些载体的人。与其埋怨社交网站隔阂了现实交际，不如多调整自我心态，更积极地融入社交生活。