Boys spring app "red envelope beggar": was forced to red hair too few micro-letters, envelopes-IT information

Returning home for Spring Festival, in addition to forced marriages, you are forced to do what? Yesterday, the 28 Liu in the circle of friends ridicule said this spring he did resent. Because in family micro-letter groups, was forced several times to his red hair, was kidnapped by moral, Liu had to withdraw from the family group. During the Spring Festival, and if your relatives or friends into a "red envelope beggar", and constantly ask you for bribes, would you refuse?

Spring encounter "red envelope beggar"

Yesterday afternoon, the reporter contacted Liu, 28 years old, he is the Chongqing hechuan people currently working in the field. He told reporters that the Chinese Spring Festival, Johnson he had a "red envelope beggars" his concern is "this gift of beggars" none but their own relatives.

It turns out that Liu's family-owned micro-groups, with a total of more than more than 10 members, there are uncles and sisters brothers, children and adults. New year's day, Liu became a protagonist in the family group, everyone in the group @ he let his red hair.

"At first, I was very happy, after all year round, we all fight, rarely come together for laughs. "Liu said at the beginning, he took out dozens of red envelopes, after the two brothers in the Group continued to @ his red hair, jiabuzhu human, he has once again.

Xiao Liu thought is, himself, after the brothers instead of stop, yet complains that he amount too little, then.

Adults are not discouraged but encouraged

"Twice, still not satisfied. "Liu said, he is the eldest brother in the family peer, by rights Spring Festival of the brother and sister red hair," but once or twice is about it, so I sent them satisfied? ”

Xiao Liu is angry, throughout the process, the brothers family instead of blocking, to join the team to let his red hair, even encouraged his brothers to "drain his wallet", he grew more and more angry, and finally, decisively out of the family group.

While acknowledging its own exit family micro-letter groups some impulse, but Liu said he usually will call greetings to their loved ones, less micro-groups, and not the special effects. In he seems, new year sent red some stale, some child even they of adults is put holiday red as has money, non-to Rob to must amounts only until, "I think, Rob red care how many, is figure a fun, several Yuan, and more than 10 Yuan also on almost has, wants to comes on have a hundreds of Yuan, and only into not out, this on some selfish has".

"Red envelope beggar" they do

Mr CHENG (age 24 jiulongpo Yang Jiaping): regardless of the same generation, junior, elders confirm, in advance, take turns to red hair, best of luck. Happy can also be made a little more, voluntarily, to force others to send, and so Rob had no meaning, too emotional kidnapped.

Miss Zhou (age 38, yuzhong district jiefangbei): who will meet relatives of people uncomfortable, this begs a red envelope, ignore him (her) it. Say it to his face (her), and his (her) argument is a silly practice, still do not know how others are talking about you, for such a person, contact less is less.

Xu (age 27 district four community): we also have robbed does not have a relative base people, really very angry, made it a few times, I blocked directly, affection is not cool because I speak not in the family group.

Mr Tsang (age 33 Nan Peng, banan district): met friends, mass mailings to red, I usually ignore him, ignore punishment is best for him.

Beg for boring

Union counsellors Office Tan Gangqiang, Chongqing City, said app is a new fun holiday red envelopes, to combine fun and sharing functions, convey blessings, love and relaxation. Issued a red envelope, are each other's emotional return to you, but now, red packets become generalized and provocative and, therefore, was kidnapped by some moral, for bribes became a boring begging behavior. In this case, another embarrassing situation also appeared: no red hair OK, but less to be criticized, this red hair cool.

In fact, the red hair is a voluntary act, red hair is self, with nature, not easily cater to beg. But on the other hand, when we express wishes, not to mention the red envelope, money, so as not to cause misunderstanding, best care-oriented, so that stronger emotional perception.

小伙春节遇微信“红包乞丐”：被逼发红包还嫌少 - 微信,红包 - IT资讯

春节回家，除了被逼婚，你还被逼做了什么？昨日，28岁的小刘在微信朋友圈吐槽称，这个春节，自己过得有点窝火。因为在家族微信群里，有人多次逼迫他发红包，觉得被道德绑架，小刘不得已退出了这个家族群。春节期间，如果你的亲戚或者朋友变成“红包乞丐”，不断向你索要红包，你会不会拒绝？

春节遭遇“红包乞丐”

昨日下午，记者联系上小刘，今年28岁的他是重庆合川人，目前在外地工作。他告诉记者，春节刚回老家，他就遭遇了“红包乞丐”，让他窝心的是，“红包乞丐”不是别人，而是自己的亲戚。

原来，小刘所在的家族微信群里，一共有10多位成员，有叔伯也有姊妹兄弟，大人小孩都有。大年初一，小刘成了家族群里的主角，大家都在群里@他，让他发红包。

“起初，我还是很乐意的，毕竟一年到头，大家都在外打拼，很少能聚到一起高兴高兴。”小刘说，一开始，他拿出几十元来发红包，发完之后，群里的两个弟弟继续@他发红包，架不住人情，他又发了一次。

让小刘没想到的是，自己发完之后，弟弟们非但没消停，还嫌他发的金额太少，要接着发。

大人不劝阻反而怂恿

“都发了两次了，还不满足。”小刘说，他是家族同辈里的大哥，按理说春节该给弟弟妹妹发红包，“但是，发了一次两次也差不多了，难道要让我发到他们满意为止？”

让小刘气愤的是，整个过程中，弟弟们的家人非但不阻止，还加入到让他发红包的队伍中来，甚至怂恿他的弟弟们，要“挤干他的荷包”，他越想越气愤，最后，果断退出了这个家族群。

虽然承认自己退出家族微信群有些冲动，但小刘称，自己平时也会电话联系问候亲人，少了微信群，并不会特别影响什么。在他看来，过年发红包有些变味，一些小孩甚至他们的大人却把过节红包当成了压岁钱，非要抢到一定数额才罢休，“我觉得，抢红包不在乎多少，就是图个好玩，几元、十几元也就差不多了，想一来就得个几百元，而且只进不出，这就有些自私了”。

遇“红包乞丐”他们这样做

郑先生（24岁九龙坡杨家坪）：不管平辈、小辈，长辈，都事先说明，轮流发红包，手气最佳的就接着发。高兴的也可以多发一点，自觉自愿，哪里要强迫别人发嘛，而且这样抢起也没得意思，太情感绑架了。

周小姐（38岁渝中区解放碑）：哪家都会遇到让人不舒服的亲戚，遇到这种讨要红包的，不理他（她）就是了。当面说他（她）、和他（她）起争执都是愚蠢的做法，还不知道别人背后怎样议论你，对于这种人，少接触才少是非。

徐小姐（27岁南岸区四小区）：我们有个亲戚群也有只抢不发的人，真的很恼火，发了几次，我就直接屏蔽了，反正亲情也不会因我不在亲戚群里发言而冷淡。

曾先生（33岁巴南区南彭）：遇到过这样的朋友，还群发要红包，我一般都不理他，无视是对他最好的惩罚。

讨要行为让人厌烦

重庆市协和心理顾问事务所所长谭刚强表示，微信红包是过节新乐趣，既有娱乐、分享的功能，也具备传递祝福、关爱的特色。发出红包，是对方对你的情感回报，然而当下，发红包变得泛化和煽情化，因此，被一些人道德绑架，索要红包成为一种令人厌烦的讨要行为。在这种情况下，另一种尴尬局面也相应出现：不发红包没事，发少了反而受到批评，这让发红包者心凉。

其实，发红包是一种自愿行为，发红包者就是应该自我、随性一些，不轻易迎合讨要者。而另一方面，大家表达祝福时，不提红包、金钱，以免引起误会，最好以关爱为主导，这样，情感感知会更浓。