Empty nest youth up to 20 million single people in China gathered in first-tier cities | exclude | empty nests | singles _ news
Authorities wide nets Beijing, April 8 (reporters Wang Jing Wang Xiaolei Gao Yi-ning) these days, graduation season, "empty nest youth" the word suddenly blew up.
Was questioned, on young for, "empty nest" of State is General and normal of, not should playing Shang label, too more of sad love may just "since pity; also was counter, only body at which of people to experience to suffered with alone suffering and lost torture of taste, enjoy not to family, no friends, lack care and comfort, became downtown City in of alone who.
At present, more than 58 million people in China live a "one life", in which youth live alone (20~39sui) has reached 20 million. Twitter users "off" this sentence: instead of forcing Amway heroism, as well as covered with wind and rain sent more people on the way to warmth, at least our cynicism.
Perhaps off-screen you don't know them in real life.
Perhaps, in a busy city, so do you, lonely ... ...
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From flats to rent 3 times to get the bus, after 5 stops, which lasted 30 minutes, play 7 tracks, long text, read the 2 articles.
After work, I will browse the shopping site, or chat with colleagues, eating takeout, waiting for night.
19:20 is the best time to arrive at the bus station for a bus, came home and turned on the TV, and happens to be the favorite television theme song ringing voice, amplified sound, so some "popular".
This is the first year I came to Beijing, sometimes surging because of the kindness of others, sometimes because of a small back and forth in joy and despair, loneliness and back.
The 967 bus line, I've gone through hundreds of times. But where is the way of the future?
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, Thursday, April 6, 2017, mild haze.
This is my fourth time in Dental Centre tooth, a man, forced open the heavy doors.
In fact, I fear the hospital, afraid of physical examination, afraid of holding sheets, sweaty, chairs in the lounge waiting for the unknown results.
On April 20 last year, I suspected thyroid nodules were found, waiting the results gap, next to aunt sighed and said: "you see, young people today do not understand to take care of themselves."
People come and go in the hospital, and I only used one shoot, wait, running up and down.
A few days ago, I got a call from Shaoxing, home to mother. Quarrels, urging marriage, no endless.
But now I miss that rain, Jiangnan, mothers Cook good rice soup when I am sick, she patted me on the back, say a, well-behaved child will fear.
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I came to Beijing for 3 years, moved 7 times.
A suitcase and a backpack, two boxes filled with all my worldly possessions and not much, just weight I can barely move.
3 years ago, I first came to Beijing, such as all "Northern drift" group of young people living in small rental cubicles, encountered unscrupulous landlords, kicked out alone at night. Beijing winter night 1 o'clock in the morning that day, I felt the cold wind holds cell phones, but I don't know who called despair, now think of it still shocked.
Now, rent "home" area of the larger, private space, rent from 850 Yuan now risen to 2600 Yuan. However, the heart is always uncertain, and perhaps before long, I will leave this for place to place.
The vast sea, where home is.
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Company has nearly 50 restaurants outside the Mall, I have been to almost every home, alone. Including selection index alone 5 stars on the network's "one-pot".
"Your party? "" Two people ", when the waiter asked me, I would not hesitate to say so. Because I can't stand attendants shouted "this one", the look of the entire restaurant. Finished dishes, put down the menu, pick up the phone, plug in the earphones, the head will not lift, one episode is my meal time.
This is my 6th month I came to Beijing, dining chair, left two people in chat, three people on the right in the camera, however, who sat across from me?
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Every time I take a bus, I miss sitting in the front, mutually dependent couples apart. The idea, I had to move several times.
My rental house located near the wudaokou Hualian's busiest street, night, color neon box flash glare, nightclub-studded bars have opened, most authentic Korean restaurant in a dense crowd.
This is my way home from work every day, coming and going of people has been difficult to tell between Chinese and foreigners, Beijing or outsiders.
But all this seems to be nothing to do with me.
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Sometimes a man resting at home, who would like to say a Word, but I do not know who said, my chest kind of sense of mood to outbreak. But to fight and do not want to let the family know their own situation. Sometimes busy, but people call me at home to maintain.
Roommates work time is wrong. Although living with Exchange are limited. My app has 800 people in the address book, but across the shiny screen, non-customer relations, constant contacts and only a mere 3.
I like to shoot portraits feature, but can't find anyone to do modeling, and landscape in the camera memory, empty of people.
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I appeared to be the legendary "empty nest youth" it, but I do not feel lonely, because I have an "it".
From August 30, 2016 to now, it has accompanied me for 220 days. I look at it from the weak baby grew into a "fat" girl.
After work, it first to rush to the door, raised claws, wagging his tail, greeted me with a dance; his spare time, making a cup of tea, read a book, it quietly lay on the edge of a lively disposition, "wheezing" warm atmosphere gradually weaker, accompanied me to slowly go to sleep ... ...
This little life, but as a child I learned to care, even when playing, also worry about whether it's hungry? Does it miss me?
Care is not easy, but in this strange city, I rejoice in it company.
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Commemorating its spring, think back to the first meeting in Beijing, was last winter's three o'clock in the morning, with my broken suitcase in a wheel, and home products in the Grandma into the box.
Never lived alone after I started one work, one bus, one life of cooking and washing clothes.
Alone in the heart of the steel and concrete, life never will. While drifting along in front, but the heart is filled with poetry and distant.
Empty nest and not empty, save to achieve self-healing. Efforts, high, like an elongation growth of vegetation, stretched into the shape of life.
No one and I made the evening, no one asks me porridge can be warm.
Unsure of was, and was told the day warm and good spring.
"Nobody made the evening with me, no one asks me porridge can be warm. "Two words [six chapters] send blue Merle
According to the National Bureau of statistics, in 2015, the number of single adults in China had exceeded 200 million. Then, on the geographical distribution of Chinese singles and how? Zhenai reports show, Beijing, Shenzhen, Shanghai, Guangzhou, Chengdu, Chongqing, Xian, Changsha, Wuhan, Dongguan, China singles top ten cities. Thus, a city is always a single gathering place, and demand far more than two or three tiers.
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Division of single men and women from the crowd, Beijing accounted for most of the single women, ranking first in China, followed by Shenzhen, Shanghai, Guangzhou, Chengdu and Chongqing; Shenzhen, while single men are the most, followed by Beijing, Shanghai, Guangzhou, Chongqing and Chengdu. Most Chinese cities there is the problem of unbalanced distribution of single men and women, and geographical imbalances, which lead to growth of a large number of singles reason.
Emotional expert Zhang Shasha: excessive "empty nest," you need a more courageous themselves
In their youth, refers to the North of Guangzhou-Shenzhen and other large cities fighting young people, parents are not around, having a fixed residence and income, do not have many friends, living alone, single.
Urban housing prices, prices and other high costs and pressures of their lives, in life alone and lonely feelings of being outside big cities, no marriage, no House of their own, feeling like there is a stranger in this city, are excluded, so the sense of belonging to the city is not strong.
Social networks really make these young people receive care from real? This is not a single solution, social networking can give them to a certain extent the spirit of care and spiritual support. Although the contact surface is not very wide, even if only a few people, but in fact it is their outreach channels. However, on the social network, they get the spirit of the meeting is limited, and need some way to friendship and love.
Now, young singles are to a large extent, this kind of group characteristics, these people are generally "home", preferring to keep themselves in a circle, not to take the initiative to expand the circle, suggested to more initiatives going, in reality, strong new friends.
In fact, young people from society to marry, will a certain gap, life will have a different Center of gravity in this period. "Empty nest" may only be a transitional stage, but if you continue to stay in this State will cause a problem.
"Empty nest" young people to self learning and improve their communication skills, give yourself a brave self.
Source: authorities wide nets
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央广网北京4月8日消息（记者王晶 王晓蕾 高艺宁）这几天，临近毕业季，“空巢青年”这个词突然间又火了起来。
有人质疑，对年轻人来说，“空巢”的状态是普遍而正常的，不应该打上标签，太多的悲情或许只是“自怜；也有人反击，只有身处其中的人才能体会到饱受着孤独煎熬和失落折磨的滋味，享受不到亲情，没有老友，缺乏关心和安慰，成为繁华都市里的孤独者。
目前，超过5800万人在中国过着“一个人的生活”，其中，独居青年（20~39岁）已达到2000万。微博上的有网友“甩”出这样一句话：与其强行安利英雄主义，不如为满身风雨赶路的人多送去一些温暖，至少收起我们的冷言冷语。
或许，屏幕外的你，并不了解他们的真实生活。
或许，在繁华都市里，你也一样，形单影只……
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从单位到合租房之间有3趟可到达的公交，会经过5站、历时30分钟、播放7首音乐、看完2篇公号长文。
下班后，我会浏览购物网站，或是与同事聊天、吃外卖，等待夜幕来临。
19点20分是到达公交站等车的最佳时间，因为到家后打开电视，正好是最爱的电视剧主题曲响起的声音，放大声音，这样家里有些“人气”。
这是我来北京的第一年，有时会因为别人的一点善意而心潮澎湃，有时又会因为一件小事，在欣喜和绝望中来来回回，孤独往返。
那条967路公交线，我已经走过了几百遍。可是，未来的路又在哪里呢？
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2017年4月6日，周四，轻度霾。
这是我第四次来口腔中心补牙，一个人，用力拉开那道沉重的门。
其实，我害怕医院，害怕体检，害怕一个人拿着化验单，手心冒汗，在休息室的座椅上等待未知的结果。
就在去年4月20日，我被查出疑似甲状腺结节，排队等待结果间隙，旁边的阿姨叹着气说：“你看，现在的年轻人根本不懂照顾自己”。
医院里的人来来往往，而我却只能习惯了一个人拍片、等候、跑上跑下。
前几天，我又接到了绍兴老家母亲的电话。争吵、催婚，无休无止。
但现在的我，却怀念那个烟雨江南，母亲在我生病时熬好米汤，她拍拍我的背，说一声，乖囡不怕。
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我来北京3年，却搬了7次家。
一个行李箱、一个双肩包、两个纸箱子里面装着我所有家当，东西不多，正好是我可以勉强拿得动的重量。
3年前，我刚到北京，如所有“北漂”的年轻人一样住在群租房的小隔间里，遇到黑心房东，晚上一个人被赶出来。那天冬夜凌晨1点的北京，我感受到了寒风中捧着手机、却不知道打给谁的绝望，现在想起来仍然心有余悸。
现在，合租房“新家”的面积变大了，有了私人空间，房租也从原来的850元涨到现在的2600元。但是，心里却总不踏实，也许用不了多久，我就会再次离开这个暂且容身的地方。
茫茫人海，何处是家。
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公司外面的商场里有近50家饭店，几乎每一家我都去过，一个人。包括网络上评选孤独指数5颗星的“一个人的火锅”。
“您几位？”“两个人”，每当服务员问我时，我都会毫不犹豫地这样说。因为我受不了服务员大声喊“这里一位”时，整个餐厅的目光。点完菜，放下菜单，拿起手机，插上耳机，头便不在抬起，一集电视剧就是我一餐的时间。
这是我来北京的第6个月，用餐的座位旁，左边两个人在聊天、右边三个人在自拍，可是，谁会坐在我的对面？
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每次坐公交，我都好想把坐在前面、相互依靠的情侣拆开。这个念头，我偷偷动了有好几次。
我的出租屋位于五道口华联商厦附近最繁华的那条街，夜幕降临，彩色霓虹灯箱闪得刺眼、夜店云集的酒吧街早已开始营业、最正宗的韩餐馆里人流密集。
这是我每天下班回家必经之路，来来往往的人群已经很难分辨是中国人还是外国人，是北京人亦或是外地人。
但这一切，似乎与我无关。
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有时一个人休息在家，想对谁说句话，却又不知对着谁说，胸口有种莫名的情绪想要爆发。但在外打拼，并不想让家里知晓自己所处的境遇。有时忙起来，反倒家里人主动给我打电话嘘寒问暖。
和室友上班时间相错。虽然同住，交流却微乎其微。我的微信通讯录里有800人，但隔着发亮的手机屏幕，非客户关系、常联系的也仅有3个而已。
我喜欢拍人像特写，但却找不到人做模特，于是，相机内存里的风景，空无一人。
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我大概就是传说中的“空巢青年”吧，可是我并不觉得孤单，因为我还有个“它”。
从2016年8月30日到现在，它已经陪伴了我220天。我看着它从孱弱的婴儿长成一个有些“壮硕”的小姑娘。
下班后，它第一个扑到门口，举起爪子，摇着尾巴，手舞足蹈地迎接我；闲暇时，泡一杯茶，看一本书，性情活泼的它安静地趴在边上，“呼哧呼哧”地温热气息逐渐微弱，陪着我慢慢睡着……
这个小小的生命，却让身为独生子女的我学会了牵挂，哪怕疯玩时，也总担心它是否饿了？它是否想我？
照顾并不容易，但在这个陌生的城市，我却欣喜于有它的陪伴。
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不觉已是春天，回想第一次遇见北京，是在去年冬日的凌晨三点，陪伴我的是坏了一个轮子的行李箱，以及奶奶塞进箱子里的家乡特产。
从来没有独自一人生活经历的我，开始了一个人上下班，一个人坐公交，一个人做饭、洗衣服的生活。
孤军奋斗在繁华的钢筋水泥中，生活从未将就。尽管眼前苟且，但心中却盛着诗和远方。
空巢而不空虚，自救达到自愈。努力，昂扬，像一支拔节生长的草木，舒展成生命该有的模样。
无人与我立黄昏，无人问我粥可温。
茫然不知身是客，却道天暖好个春。
“无人与我立黄昏，无人问我粥可温。”两句出自[浮生六记]《寄芸》
根据国家民政局统计，2015年，中国单身的成年人数量已超过2亿。那么，在地域上中国单身人群的分布情况又如何呢？珍爱网报告显示，北京、深圳、上海、广州、成都、重庆、西安、武汉、东莞、长沙成为中国单身人群最多的十个城市。由此可见，一线城市始终为单身人群聚集地，脱单需求远大于二三线城市。
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从单身男女人群划分来看，北京单身女性的占比最多，居中国之首，其次为深圳、上海、广州、成都和重庆；而单身男性则深圳最多，其次为北京、广州、上海、重庆和成都。中国大部分城市均存在单身男女分布不均衡的问题，而地域上的失衡，也正是导致单身人群数量增长的一大原因。
情感专家张莎莎：过度“空巢” 你需要一个更勇敢的自己
空巢青年，指的是在北上广深等大城市打拼的年轻人，父母不在身边，有固定的住所和收入，朋友不是很多，独居，单身。
在城市居住房价、物价等各方面成本高，他们生活的压力大，在生活中孤单和寂寞感强烈，从外地来大城市，没有结婚、没有属于自己的房子，总会觉得在这个城市的是个外来人，受到排斥，所以对城市的归属感不强。
社交网络真的让这些年轻人得到真实的关怀么？这个问题不能一刀切，社交网络其实能在一定程度上给予他们的精神关怀和精神支撑。虽然联系面不算很广，即使只有几个人，但是事实上这也是他们对外联系的渠道。但是，他们从社交网络上得到的精神满足是有限的，更需要通过一定的途径得到友情和爱情。
现在，单身青年很大程度上都具备这一类人群的特征，这部分人普遍比较“宅”，更愿意把自己控制在一个小圈子里，而不去主动拓展圈子，建议要多主动走出去，在现实中结实新的朋友。
其实， 年轻人从走向社会到结婚，肯定会一定的空档期，这个时期生活的重心会有不同。“空巢”也可能只是一个过渡的阶段，但是如果持续保持这个状态就会出现问题了。
对于“空巢”，年轻人要自我提升学习，提升自己的沟通技巧，给自己一个更勇敢的自己。
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